We confine ourselves to the limits of our own expectations, when we can actually live without them and just take in all that is, was, and will be, which is reality.
Psychology is to be blamed for the so-called expectations. As far as I can remember, out of my psychology and nursing psychiatry classes, our behavior towards something will depend on the outcomes we have continually been having through certain methods i.e. repetition, consistency, and the likes.
So now, my main point. This is cliche, or probably just plain pessimism, but the root of all heartaches = expectations. Heartaches? Yes, this is actually a post about love.
I'm not sure how many people can read this, and I'm further oblivious as to how many readers can actually relate to what I'm trying to point out. Just lately....just today, actually, out of my own personal musings, I get to thinking.. "If we just learn to surrender our expectations and accept reality, wouldn't life be so much easier for us?" And again I say "surrender".
If you're hurting, ask yourself, "Why am I hurting?" It's because of a failed expectation. So why subject yourself to all the hurting when you can simply accept the one and only fact? It happens to be different from what or how you wanted it to be, but hey, it's over and done. Just learn to deal with it and move on.
I actually wrote a very long paragraph in this space citing a very classic example for the aforementioned opinion, but I removed it, as I understand this is a public post and anything I say can be assumed to make reference to my personal life, which is an absolutely reasonable assumption, but can only really be an assumption after all, because the truth is, I just made it up. But whatever, I deleted it anyways.
So just let me end this without an example. Hope you still get the point. It's a really simple thing. Let go of you expectations and accept reality. It will give you so much freedom you never imagined possible.
And by the way, no it's not redundant, it's called emphasis.